How to deal with a partner who is suffering from depression?

someone said to tell him you understand what hes going through, but i wouldnt do that. you dont know what he is dealing with and he might feel slighted if you say that you do. many hospitals offer weekly meetings for family members that deal a depressed family member. many antidepressants affect your life negatively. the most important thing would be for him to find a med that helps him, but you can try different ones to see which one would also hinder your life least. i would just be up front and honest with him as much as you can. talk about your life, talk about how you wish you could help him, talk to him about how you love him, and talk to him about how you dont understand what he is going through, but you are here to help however you can. it will help just to know you are there for him, and having these conversations will likely bring you closer. and i know it upsets you to hear him talk about how he feels and about death, but it probably is relieving for him to be able to talk about this openly, so i would listen.